Ahh Jane, I'm so sorry for this horrible news. Even if you don't come back, you have our concern and support.
Ok Jane, it's been a year and a half, what happened? It was clear from some of your posts some storm clouds were brewing, but what was the scary part? Did Dude get ugly? He was always on the outside looking in, kinda renting your companionship, so I could see him getting tired of it...and just packing it in one day.
Holy shit.I have been away - my world was unstable after Dude went nuclear and I was afraid...
For those of you who were here then - Dude went postal, assaulted MrS, and held us hostage at gunpoint - MrS landed in the trauma ICU (He is okay now, mostly).
This has ZERO to do with poly and everything to do with Dudes's mental health! (No, I don't know where he is now, I negotiated for him to come get his "stuff" - and he took practically everything that he had ever touched after almost 10 years of being part of our household.)
Thank you - and I agree!And, totally awesome that you and Mr Clean are enjoying each other I think friends make the best lovers!!
I actually remember this conversation - it was on my very first post on this board, about a messy quad situation that had imploded (though not as spectacularly as your recent situation).Thank you - and I agree!
I wrote a bit about this on here somewhere before but Dude would say things like, "If we weren't dating, I wouldn't be friends with her." I think that is fine for a ONS or temporary NSA partner - but "dating" implies (to me) at least he potential for an ongoing relationship...and who wants an ongoing relationship with someone they wouldn't be friends with?!? (BUT, I understand that "dating" to some people means anyone they are seeing on an ongoing basis and, potentially, having sex with - to me, that would be "hooking up"...whatever.)