Last night, I went to pick Redpepper up for the night, as is the usual routine for us. Before leaving, Polynerdist and I spent an hour discussing topics ranging from the building blocks of relationships and why we have achieved the things we have in the last year, to the origin of good and evil! We have a lot of similar thought patterns and some differing views that stimulate us both to explore new ideas. I feel we are truly more than friends, or merely held together by our common link in Redpepper. There is a brotherly bond I feel towards him which only adds to my belief that no matter what hand life deals us, we will all be a part of each other's lives from here on.
Redpepper and I attended a workshop on sex today. It was not on
sexuality but actual hardcore, no boundaries, raw sex talk and how to ask for what you wanted. About twenty people were there, some of whom we knew and others we did not. It was amazing to see how open people were just because we understood what the workshop was about and that we were in a safe environment to share.
There were exercises where you essentially walked up to a person in the room and asked for a very specific sexual act. The objective was to see how we felt when answering these questions with
yes,
no,
maybe, and
how about. At first we were asked to respond a certain way, regardless of our real answer. Obviously this would have made my answer easy, LOL-- NO, NO, NO! Anyway, it pushed us a little and was somewhat liberating to just look at someone and say, "Want to go for a walk and eat each other?" I know Redpepper enjoyed pushing her partners, as well. She is so naughty.
We also did exercises with food, where we could ask to be fed or to feed people certain fruit. The energy built up in the room and it gave us a non-threatening environment to see how sharing this with other people made us feel.
We had a great time, learned some new stuff and reinforced some old things.
After that we met Polynerdist at a gathering of his peers from a local interest group and all had supper. It was funny to have one woman tell Redpepper that she had it all figured out when I said I would be taking their son home and babysitting so they could spend some time together and go have some fun! She didn't know exactly what our dynamic was and I wonder what her response would have been if she did!
Tonight I will sleep over with my chosen family, wake up and hang out with Redpepper and her son as Polynerdist sleeps in, and then it's off for a visit with another chosen family in the evening.
Life really is pretty good in a lot of ways. This is, in fact, my life now. Thanks, Redpepper and Polynerdist. I love you both.
Peace and love,
Mono