Easy there my kindest, bestest friends
You still aren't hearing me, I am not saying that men can't be raped, I know damn well that they can be raped, and that women can be responsible from the act.
But it requires more than inserting the man's erect penis into her
as you all, in all your psychological and literary genius, seem to be missing the entire point, paradox if you will, that rape is NOT only a sexual crime.
It is also a crime of power and control, the idea that the perpetrator believes that because in that one specific instance, which is not perpetual and not a situation where the rapist temporary power lasts long, but never the less,
at that moment the perpetrator believes he has authority to enter a place that he has NO AUTHORITY to enter, as it is solely the owner of that space's decision, and nothing can ever make entrance to space OK, accept permission.
Sort of like an man's asshole and it never being OK for another to enter without his permission
It is about entering a space that is not only not-public, but so private that only the person whose body IS that space itself, and only that person can grant permission to enter.
So you twist what I say as much as you want, and I don't care if I am banned, but if you think anything that I wrote means that I don't understand that men don't always want to fuck during every second of every day, then you should read what I said again.
Because I am not being cryptic, I am not intending my words to have esoteric meaning, I am attempting to explain a principle which many people fail to understand
I can empathize with both people being raped and not having anyone believe them AND how it feels to be accused of rape when nothing further from the truth could be the reality of what happened
and get this, you can beat around the bush all you want, I will NOT be intimidated intellectually or physically, and the fact you do not know this speaks of both YOUR intelligence and your knowledge of history, because not only have I been in both those situations, but everywhere in between. As I have been ignorant enough to not see have their have been instances in my life where if the woman believed I raped her, than that is what happened, and that is my fault because I was too stupid, like you, at the time understand.
I have also almost ruined my life and others, because a woman whom I am close with, and I mistakenly believed she was raped, and it was only by chance that I was stopped, and when she found out and clarified that she had only used that term, "rape" because she didn't want to deal with one particular person, and even if she hadn't asked where I was going that day, if would have been my fault, as I had only overheard an argument when I had given her a ride to her boyfriends to drop off her school books before we had to go to work, and like her boyfriend believed it, it seemed plausible to me so I believed it without ever asking her about it. So yes, I understand that people I once thought very highly of, are capable of lying. But it is NOT because of "people like me" that innocent men get accused of rape.
My general disgust with men is more due to them being full of shit most of the time, do you realise, Vinccenzo, that you claimed men get raped more then often then I think. And you said this because you did not understand me and why I do not consider it rape, at least not the act alone of having his dick inserted into someone with his permission. And I am know that it might not make sense to you that people can be wrongly convicted of a crime they did not commit, while having that very act done to them and not have that molestation constitute rape.
It sounds like it cannot be right, but it is, and I am not discounting the severity of the wrongs done to your friend, nor I am discounting the damage done to him,
THE ONLY THING I AM SAYING, and because this topic needs to be addressed, is that sex acts with a mans dick being inserted into another is not the same act nor carry the same consequences as the other side of that act, being a woman's vagina having a dick inserted into it.
They are not equal halves of an equation of consequence.
Because I am speaking about the importance of truth, and not being afraid of it, the woman who I wrongly thought was raped would have never said something like that to me, as she knows me, but rather then telling her husband the truth and dealing with an uncomfortable situation she lied. And I realized that I am responsible for my actions, which is why I don't associate with others as anything but casual acquaintances, unless I know they value, respect, and are not afraid of the truth, even though we do not employ it as a weapon.
So maybe you aren't hearing me still, I am not saying women don't lie, I am not saying it's OK to be slandered and accused.
I am not saying men cannot be raped be raped by woman,
I am say that it is not rape, simply for the act of inserting part of the victim into the perp, as that is not entering a sovereign space
I am not saying there are times when men choose not to have sex. I am saying that if a man is not penetrated, it is molestation and different from rape. Molestation between adults is not as severe of a wrong doing, but it is still a fucked up thing to do.
The sickness, the disease, has more to do with not showing respect to things not under your control and authority, during the periods that nothing is preventing you from maintaining that respect
I understand most, if not all of the things rape is not,
I understand most, if not all of the most of the things rape is
and I am not speaking from some exercise in imagination, nor I am being a dick and just pretending I am stupid when it's really just being a stupid prick
I am speaking from personal, accurately remembered experience, all of which have nothing to do with anything nor the times I have been tricked into believing things that were not true, but I had believed they were, because of a parallel to the frame of mind of rapists, that happens with power and control and also authority of said power and control of information in this electronic age
and women are much less prone to committing such crimes because they are inherently more knowledgeable to truth by experience, and have to be taught to accept false core beliefs, where as the male comes pre-wired with lies
Take it however you want to take it, for whatever meaning you hear, it doesn't change anything, and everything that Is real remains real, despite how much power and authority is abused