There is a lot being said about me and the couple both being a rapists. None of us are in my mind. Initiating sex with a person when their hormones and lowered inhibitions persuade them to continue, rather than their rational mind, and ignoring that they'd make a different decision, is exploitive and wrong, but its not rape.
Stepping out-because I disagree WHOLEHEARTEDLY.
Using any opportunity to have sex with someone who wouldn't want it CLEAN AND SOBER is RAPE. It's often called DATE RAPE and it is punishable as a CRIME.