jumpinonpolytrain
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I don't know where else to look for information regarding this situation I have found myself in. My husband and I have talked about opening our relationship up. We've set rules (or so I thought) about what is acceptable. (my exact rules were "wrap your shit up" and "don't bring that shit home") Long story short, he met a chick and a few hours later they ended up having unprotected sex. This is all while he is away from home. He ended up coming home and insisting on sleeping with me since he had been gone for 2 weeks. He hadn't told me about his incident when we slept together. He waited until the following day to decide to tell me about it. When talking about the condom usage he stated he thought I only meant when sleeping with hookers. After doing some research on this chick, EVERY single thing she told him was a lie. It's all verifiable.
He was offering to pay to fly her here while I am away to have a weeks long love affair, which goes against my second rule of "don't bring that shit home". We have a child and I personally find it extremely disrespectful to my child and myself to have another woman in my bed at night sleeping with my husband. He sees nothing wrong with it.
My issue is, what is an acceptable response to his indiscretion? They do not speak anymore. He will not ever speak to her again but considering this was his one mistake, does he get a pass even though the only 2 rules we agreed upon were broken by him?
He was offering to pay to fly her here while I am away to have a weeks long love affair, which goes against my second rule of "don't bring that shit home". We have a child and I personally find it extremely disrespectful to my child and myself to have another woman in my bed at night sleeping with my husband. He sees nothing wrong with it.
My issue is, what is an acceptable response to his indiscretion? They do not speak anymore. He will not ever speak to her again but considering this was his one mistake, does he get a pass even though the only 2 rules we agreed upon were broken by him?